Desire Principles
By Slade Shaw
Women want a man to be completely head-over-heels crazy about them, but often go about it the wrong way.
In fact, a lot of them might do things that push him away instead of pull him in.
The first mistake women make is thinking of men as evolved...
While we as a species are quite evolved, we still hang onto many of our primitive instincts.
Those instincts include courtship.
So you need to look at men at a basic level and consider what makes them tick.
Men are hunters. They love games and challenges. They love winning more than anything.
A man loves to swoop in and save the day. He wants to be a hero.
Consider every blockbuster movie ever made from new releases like Guardians of the Galaxy to older movies like Star Wars.
Take your all-time favorite “guy action” movie...and then take out all of the obstacles.
Pretend that Luke Skywalker waltzed right into the Death Star, had a talk with his dad and easily turned Darth Vader back to the good side.
Then, together, they made the galaxy a safe place.
Imagine if he took care of everything in one movie...it would flop.
Men dream of overcoming impossible odds and having a hero story to tell.
It’s the same with dating and falling in love.
Men want to win a woman that they feel is out of their reach.
They want a real prize.
You can use that knowledge to reel him in and make him crazy about you, using the six tricks I’ll share here.
And here’s the big secret:
It’s about how you make him feel.
So even if these tricks sound weird, they work! They make men intrigued, excited, and crazy about you.
Trick # 1: Get his attention - I don’t need you...but I might want you.
Picture yourself walking by a store window with a trendy new bag.You like the bag. It’s pretty and your girlfriends will be jealous. So you pause and consider, and then slowly move on.
You decide to window shop a bit while thinking about it.
You could get the bag. You might get the bag. But you don’t need it, so it’d just be something to make you happy.
If you can take this attitude with dating, men will flock to you.
(And it works wonders in a relationship too!)
You can do this with a lingering glance in a coffee shop. Meet his gaze and give him a slight smile before you look away.
He’s curious, but you ignore him.
It’s only right before you leave that you give him a flirty look.
Okay, so he gets your number. You text a little. But of course you don’t go overboard and answer everything right away.
You talk for a while and make it to the dating stage.
He asks you if you’re seeing anyone else. You laugh and tell him, “I can’t tell you that this early!”
You tease and flirt more than you share, which intrigues him all the more.
You like him. You might want a second date. You might not. You’ll have to think about it and let him know.
Basically, don’t act or talk like he’s your only option, and that you’re available any time to talk or meet.
Don’t even act like you need a relationship right now.
Treat it like this is fun, you’re enjoying yourself, and you might let it go further...but don’t tell him that!
When you don’t need him...and act like a prize...he’ll chase you.
When you’re in a relationship, he’ll be even more attracted to you if he knows that you choose to be in it.
This is different from being in a relationship out of some desperate need to have someone in your life.
Trick #2: Throw him a curve ball
Men have a little trick they use on women. Now it’s your turn to benefit from it!A man will give you a compliment, but it’s underhanded
A few examples include:
- That’s a nice dress but it’s too loose. (or long, or flowery, etc.)
- You look good in that shirt but the color isn’t that great.
- I don’t normally talk to the librarian type, but you’re an exception.
Men call this tactic “negging” and use it to undermine a woman’s confidence so she’ll want his approval more.
They use it when they meet women to raise their chances of getting her into bed.
Wow, sounds mean, right?
So let’s change it up a bit. You don’t have to be mean, but let’s say you find ways to tease him a little.
It’s similar to letting him know that you don’t need him.
Even more important, you’re showing that he’ll have to work to impress you and win you over.
So you’re upping the challenge factor, which men love!
A simple example is saying, “Ohhh...you’re the business type. Well, I guess I can talk for a few.”
Or, “You think you can get a second date that easy?”
“Well, I could tell you, but you haven’t been sweet enough yet.” (This tells him outright that you’re setting the bar higher!)
“I don’t know about dating someone who dresses so casual...”
You can use this in a relationship too.
Now, you don’t want to trample on his male ego, but try playing “the mean girl” and see how men go crazy over you.
Men will desire you because you stand up for yourself and act like a prize.
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Trick #3: Reverse Psychology
Why are you dating? To find a great guy and have a relationship.In theory, so are men.
So why do men run away when it doesn’t seem like fun anymore?
They sense a trap. Men in particular don’t like to be roped into things unless it’s their idea.
Men want to find a partner, but they get jumpy when it feels like you’re cornering them, caging them, or laying claim.
Really, this concept applies to men for most of their lives. Even after 15 years of marriage, a man might feel like he’s losing his freedom.
He’ll want his shop or garage, or his night with the guys, or whatever he does to feel “free”.
How do you overcome this?
Easy. Reverse psychology. Who said you were looking for a relationship? Maybe you aren’t ready for commitment.
“Long distance is hard. I might not be ready for that.”
“Being exclusive is a big step. Maybe we could talk about it later on.”
Show interest in him but say you’re not interested in a serious relationship right now.
He’ll want to change your mind.
Basically, turn the tables on him. He thought you were trying to pull him in, and suddenly he’s freefalling.
He’ll realize that he’s the one who wants you more.
He’ll be crazy about you.
This is why men like “mean girls” and chase women who turn them down, dump them, and stand them up.
Doing those things makes you more desirable.
(Side note: Don’t use this to get a man to propose. If you mention you’re not interested in marriage, hoping to get him interested, it’s likely to backfire. That’s a huge step so it’s something to discuss honestly.)
Acting like you’re not interested in a relationship might seem mean.
Think about it this way: is it mean to make a game that men love? That makes them go crazy over you?
Tiffany (not her real name) went on a date and found her friend Aaron attractive. Yet, she wasn’t sure if she really liked him.
He asked her if she was seeing other people, and she honestly answered yes.
Aaron pursued her like crazy. They did get together, but Tiffany broke up with him.
He was devastated and kept chasing her. They got together again...and broke up again.
The more she pushed him away, the more he liked her.
Tiffany wasn’t trying to play games. She did like him, but she felt they weren’t right together.
However, she learned something about men. They really do like the mean girls.
On a deeper level, they like and need that challenge. It drives them.
To use this trick, don’t ask a man where things stand, if he’s looking for a relationship, or what his intentions are.
Let him chase you, and take a step back at times.
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